Monday, December 8, 2008

Let's Be Friends

Second method: You teach the boys said, "Let's be friends with you"

If you boys learned to say "Let's be friends with you," they tend to have mastered the interpersonal relationships of the initiative. In fact, children learn to say "Let's be friends with you," is a show, and they are happy to make friends, make friends with music for the gesture. This attitude often gives rise to the expression.

7-year-old boy told his family aunt had just come back from the Inner Mongolia Prairie Tourism, aunt to a guest house, and his aunt were talking the whole family joy. His aunt asked: "How do you like Kao Yangtui Inner Mongolia? How do they come from?"; Let him speak to his small cousin of the Spring River in Inner Mongolia, on the prairie horse; his round Yifu talk to him yurts Inner Mongolia weather. The results of the whole family because the little one to enjoy and share the pleasure.

Asked someone to share their interest in the content, is to make friends with others, showing a friendly manner, but also people with a skill to get along better. As a result, parents can teach you love to make friends of the boys have the skills. For example, parents can tell you that the boys, more people want good, talk with them, we must own at least, to ask each other, find each other's interest in the topic say there are a lot of talk, Please share each other's interest in him, his most memorable experiences, his greatest success, and so on.

sell yourself

sell yourself
Successfully sell yourself is a prerequisite for contact with others, so parents should teach children "to promote" self-awareness.

jame is a happy little boy, he will come to understand where a lot of good friends. This is not today, a new kindergarten children, free, jame boat with it's own "dinosaur" children's books came to the side, with joy on the faces of the children said: "My name is jame, I Kehao put story-telling, I'll tell you 'the story of dinosaurs' it. "In a moment, then Geng Zhou and the new children became good friends.

In fact, every parent should give children "sell" self-awareness. To know that the self dare to sell some of the children aware of their own advantages, the needs of others, so that the children's self-confidence is, of the sun.

Many facts have proved that, whether adults or children, not everyone is so confident that they do not like the sun. Therefore, parents let children learn to market themselves, it is tantamount to giving the child a self-confident, optimistic, sunny personality, so that the children will go and he was happy to make friends.

successful of communication

success of communication
Communication - the success of the boys must have the ability

Parents are often outlined in the minds of their own boys grow up to the image of success: the workplace should be free on the management of people, wonderful shopping at the mouth of the flower negotiator, dominated the entrepreneurs, the popular politician ... ... There is no denying that this The success of all the men need to have a strong ability with people.

However, in real life, a lot of little boy's performance is worrying: self-centered, strong attack, not gregarious, the feminization of serious tendency ... ... As a result, they often show want to see strangers, and afraid to strangers People to speak and can not get along with others and so on. Such children how to attach the image of success with those who do?

Carnegie has said that a successful, professional knowledge is the role played by 15%, and accounted for 85% of communicative competence. In other words, the harmonious interpersonal relations, exchanges of high-strength skills, social an important criterion for judging success.

Strong skills, children benefit. Good contacts with other people's children in the schools, not only be able to easily contact with the people of the same age, but also with the teacher calmly, and other exchanges between adults. The child is good at dealing with other people in the crowd how the popularity of his later life, learning and the development of a lot. As a result, parents from a young age to cultivate children's attention with people.


In fact, for any of the boys, they all want to look forward to a few thinking, learning or life like-minded friends, to obtain recognition from friends, to encourage, support and trust. However, some parents let their education exchanges in a little bit of sense to weaken. If the parents told the boys love to make friends:

"Do not learn from the students and a Wanya!"

"Do not over-and female students from close!"

"Do not bad, and those too close!"

... ...

The parents of these boys do not know or let go; so that they can be closed or own, with people do not love; or allow them to become good popularity ... ...

Learning is in the knowledge society, to explore life during the boys of the same age and the establishment of friendship and exchanges between the partners is a normal psychological needs. At this time, do not deviate from the normal track of life under the premise that parents do not give them too much. These boys will restricted prematurely secular, utilitarian; or cause their dissatisfaction and to stimulate their mental treason, which affects their ability to contact, they can lead to the formation of their eccentric, depression, paranoia and other psychological disorder.

To the parents of the proposed

Achievements in children's ability to life, habits, basically as a child in foster children together, the boy's skills even more so. As a child to know other people took the initiative to greet the boys, often grow up to know how to become friends with strangers; know how as a child with people skills of boys grow up, tend to attract more of a friend; popularity as a child a good boy, grow up There will always be a lot of life, career ... helpful ...